I need a new mattress for a queen size bed. I am 5'4 125 lbs my husband is 6.3' 250 lbs.
I have a lower back bulging disc that with sciatica pain going down the leg.
I am a stomach sleeper, which I try to avoid since it is not good for the back.
My husband prefers a medium firm mattress, no major problems with his back.
What type of mattress do you recommend?
Thank you, Linda
There's nothing wrong with being a stomach sleeper, as long as the mattress is firm enough.
The key to alleviating your sciatica pain is to keep your spine properly aligned.
You have worn discs in the small of your back. The nerves are being pinched by the bones.
Maintaining the natural alignment of your spine will prevent those nerves from being pinched, which will eliminate the sciatica pain that goes around the hip and down the leg.
Unfortunately, all of the name brands, that we've trusted over the decades, have gone bad.
That is to say, they've all been purchased by other companies, who are now only interested in recouping the investment and turning a profit.
They do this with Memory Foam.
They spend millions of dollars to convince you that memory foam is the best thing since sliced bread...and it is, from their point of view. It causes a mattress to need frequent replacing.
Memory foam is the only upholstery material that is temperature sensitive.
What happens, the memory foam softens as it warms from the body heat you give off.
When it softens, you sink into it....throwing off the alignment of the spine.
When you have any sort of disc related back problems, it will only make it worse.
The diabolical part of all this, is that when you get out of bed, the memory foam will recover to a point that a necessary sustained impression needed to prevail in a warranty claim won't happen.
Instead of being able to exchange the mattress under the terms of the warranty, you have to buy new. If you don't know that it's the memory foam causing the problem, you will simply repeat the mistake...sometimes, over and over again.
The goal of the manufacturers who are using memory foam, is to sell more mattresses, more frequently, to the same people.
It's all about profit and has nothing to do with quality.
From a consumer's point of view, memory foam is the absolute worst upholstery material ever invented. It's an expensive and a painful mistake that you must avoid making.
The quality of the components, is what you need to look for.
Simply going to a mattress store and picking out a mattress that's comfortable won't work today,
as it had in years past. Most mattress stores are a sea of mattresses...all loaded with memory foam.
In your case, you will need an innerspring mattress that will provide push back support against your spine to keep the discs in place and to prevent your bulging discs from herniating.
Since your husband is a big man, those coils need to be strong.
The best upholstery material...the most comfortable and the most durable...is all natural latex.
An individually pocketed coil will provide firm, contouring support that will maintain the spine's natural alignment. Upholstery material that provides surface comfort that won't let you sink, is natural latex.
Latex is and has been the best upholstery material for the last 100 years....nothing new here.
The best of this type of coil/latex hybrid mattress, that we've found after years of shopping the trade shows, is The Natura of Canada Greenspring.
There are 5 models in their line...none feeling as soft as they sound, due to the high quality and resiliency of the components used to make them.
The Firm model is down right hard.
The Plush model is firm.
The Ultra Plush model has a medium feel....and the one I would recommend for you.
The coils are made of double tempered steel and the primary upholstery is natural latex.
I am a petite woman 5'2", 110 lbs. and my husband is a large man, not fat, 5'10", 210 lbs. We are young, early 30s. He is in perfect health, but I suffer from sciatica.
The pain travels around my hip and down my leg. No matter what mattress we try, the pain won't go away.
The Tempurpedic went back after making the pain worse, as did the Select Comfort bed and the Serta iSeries pillowtop mattress.
They all felt great, at first, but quickly started to became painful.
My old mattress was too firm, but I wish I had it back. After spending hours, last night, reading your incredibly helpful blog posts, I've decided to defer to you.
Your depth of knowledge and expertise is very impressive. I'm going to trust that what you recommend for me will be what I need.
To be honest, I have come to the realization that I just don't know what I'm doing, when it comes to this.
And after being so badly mislead by the salespeople at the stores, I don't trust that they know what they're doing, either.
Thanks in advance, Paulette
Hi Paulette...and thank you. We will get you and your husband all fixed up.
Near the base of your spine is the nerve center for the lower half of your body. To have sciatica, you must also have discs in that area that have worn.
The vertebrae are now pinching a nerve, which creates sciatica and the pain you described.
The best you can do to relieve the nerve from being pinched, is to maintain your spine's natural alignment.
A hard mattress, like the one you had, holds you up too high and doesn't give enough at the hip.
All foam and air mattresses, like the ones you bought, allow your hip to sink too far.
Either way, your body's natural alignment was thrown off...which then pinches the nerve that causes the sciatic pain you're feeling. An innerspring mattress is a must form you.
Of all the innerspring mattresses available, the Simmons Beautyrest, with individually pocketed coils that move independently from one another, does the best job of maintaining your spine's natural alignment. At your size, almost any Beautyrest will do. But, your mattress also has to support a large man.
Your best option is the Simmons Beautyrest Blach Desiree in luxury firm. This will provide contouring support you need, and be strong enough to hold a man the size of your husband.
At your size, the mattress itself will be a little too firm for comfort. Add to that mattress, a 2" soft Talalay latex mattress topper. Latex is the highest quality upholstery material available.
It will do more than just soften the surface of the mattress. It will hold you up and not allow you to sink...giving just enough with your hip and otherwise, provide a zero gravity feel.
Latex lasts for many years and is all natural. Because it is so resilient, it will absorb your husband's body weight, which will add years of life to the mattress.
Your husband will also enjoy the comfort it provides.
What's more, your sciatica pain will be relieved and you'll sleep deeply.
After noticing that I was waking up with mild back pains every morning (which went away when I was on vacation)
We made the decision to replace my 20-year-old Sealy Posturepedic mattress.
I went to my local store and spent hours trying out various mattresses before deciding on a Simmons Beautyrest, which felt absolutely wonderful in the store.
But when we got our delivery, the mattress felt firmer than it did in the store.
The salesman told us there was a breaking in period and to give the mattress a chance (I should have been suspicious when he said that).
The first night I slept on the new mattress, the mid-back pain I had been living with had dissipated.
But after three nights on this new mattress, that mild ache has been replaced by a raging case of sciatica! Is this normal?
My husband also has new back pains he has never had before.
What can we do?
We can't afford to buy another mattress and I don't want a store credit at this point. Thanks, Susan
Hi Susan, You have good support. What you need now is surface comfort to relieve the pressure points, relax your muscles and relieve blood flow. Add an EverEden 2" soft Talalay latex topper to the mattress you have, and you will be good to go.
It's amazing, how well it works and it lasts for many years...a true quality item. Here is the link. You can order one on line.
I am SO grateful to finally find your site. I am surprised that after months of looking I only found it by accident through another link today.
Well, at least all my research made it possible for me to recognize an expert when I finally found one. It started with looking for new mattress for my husband and me. Our mattress is "fine" but then we are not much on comfort and just take whatever... but they are 22 years old so I thought I "should" replace them. Two twin mattresses on a solid wood platform - Simmons Gibraltar (with "individually wrapped beauty rest coils"). I was told when I purchased them "this is too hard for you - made for very heavy people".
(My husband and I are 120 and 150 lbs). I guess they were right since the mattresses look EXACTLY like the day we bought them - they do not bend at all when you sit on the edge, middle, anywhere.
It's like sleeping on the ground but with a pad.
Anyway, we are now 58 and 68 and he still doesn't want to change, but I wake up hurting every morning... numb hands, aching shoulder (I am a side sleeper).
After my research I decided to go with Latex - but then MORE choices.
After all that I have looked at - it seems that our mattresses might be just fine and that I just need a 2 inch Talalay topper since my mattress is like a foundation already.
But now I have no idea if I should get a soft or a medium? or a soft 2 inch or a medium 3 inch. Can you help?
I know it is an impossible task to guess other people's needs but you seem to have an ENORMOUS amount of experience and intuition... you are like the Mattress Whisperer. :)
I also want to get a bed for my mother (FIRST priority) but she is 85 and has the idea that "latex is bad" so an entire bed for her might not work.
She has terrible sciatica and disc problems (no doubt her horrible hammock of a bed) and she wants to get the Sealy Posturepedic in Firm.
Could you recommend one for her? I would then get her your Soft Talalay 2 inch topper (do you suggest soft or medium)?
I cannot thank you enough for whatever help you can give. Kind regards, Colleen
Hi Colleen, Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to read some before asking your question. You have the answer for you and your husband's needs. The EverEden 2" soft Talalay topper is the one to get for your beds. You won't sink through it.
Latex holds you up, suspended, relieving the pressure points and optimizing muscular relaxation.
You can go with the 3" soft Talalay if you want to indulge yourself in a more luxurious feel...but truthfully, the 2" soft Talalay is all you need.
Hi Pete, I suffer a big sciatica pain from my back and I would like to know what type of mattress is suitable for me. My height is 60 inches and weight 120 pounds. Thank you, Melanie
Hi Melanie, A pocketed coil unit will contour to the shape of your body and maintain the natural alignment of your spine. This will be the best type of support to relieve sciatica. Most of today's mattresses are using memory foam, which loses its shape quickly and also sleeps hot. You can counter that with a latex topper. Latex is all natural, sleeps cool and takes many years to show the beginning signs of wear. You can go with a Simmons Beautyrest and a latex topper, or with Natura Greenspring, which is already upholstered with all natural latex and has no memory foam. For you size, I would recommend the Liberty Ultra Plush model...shown here: https://themattressexpert.com/natura-greenspring-pocketed-coil-mattresses/
Hi Pete, I suffer a big sciatica pain from my back and I would like to know what type of mattess is suitable for me. My height is 60 inches and weight 120 pounds. Thank you, Melanie
Hi Melanie, A pocketed coil unit will contour to the shape of your body and maintain the natural alignment of your spine. This will be the best type of support to relieve sciatica. Most of today's mattresses are using memory foam, which loses its shape quickly and also sleeps hot. You can counter that with a latex topper. Latex is all natural, sleeps cool and takes many years to show the beginning signs of wear. You can go with a Simmons Beautyrest and a latex topper, or with Natura Greenspring, which is already upholstered with all natural latex and has no memory foam. For you size, I would recommend the Liberty Plush model...shown here: https://themattressexpert.com/natura-greenspring-pocketed-coil-mattresses/
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