We flipped our Stearns and Foster mattress over and added a latex topper, as you suggested.
My husband is having less back pain, as you said. So, yay!
I, however, cannot sleep a wink.
It’s too firm for me and I am constantly tossing and turning trying to get comfortable.
And he can feel every move because the latex is buoyant.
I find myself waking up on my stomach and I have never, ever been a stomach sleeper. Strange!
Perhaps I need a better pillow? Any thoughts? I can’t find the right loft!
I can feel that I’m not aligned and I constantly move trying to get some rest.
I’m so ready to figure this out.
I’ve been seeing an orthopedic Dr for strange arthritis symptoms and they’re in the process of testing for rheumatoid. Perhaps that’s a reason for the sleep struggles?
I just want to be comfortable… and I think a pillow is the next step. Best for petite side sleeper?
Thanks again for everything!
Stomach sleeping is the most comfortable sleeping position on a too firm mattress.
If sticking with that mattress and sleeping position, a thin pillow is called for.
I would suggest going to Bed Bath and Beyond for that.
Finding the right pillow is extremely tricky. BB&B has a large selection and will take back anything they sell…allowing you to wade through their selection without having to keep any of them that don’t work for you.
Side sleeping on a hard surface won’t be possible without causing pain to the hip and shoulder.
So, there’s little point in getting a pillow for the side sleeping position.
While at BB&B, you might look into an “Alternative Down” comforter to further soften the surface, which might allow you to sleep on your side.
Real down flattens out much to quickly. Alternative down, aka synthetic down, keeps it’s loft much better.
If going with a new mattress, you’ll be able to use your existing box spring and latex topper. I recommend the Wolf Old Fashioned Two Sided Brolynn Plush Mattress.
I don't want to order a mattress and box spring only to have to pay a recall fee.
I cannot find any mention for an older Simmons Beautyrest Mattress, the Olson Way.
It is just over 10 years and it is not giving me the support I now need.
I loved the individual coils, etc.
Possibly, it is not just the bed as my body has not been nice to me over the last 6+ years.
I don't want memory foam. I don't know if I should get a plush or pillow top because
I have read that plush is not good for spinal alignment and that pillow top is bad for older people. Augh!
I am 88, and might be having to have a spinal fusion this fall.
I have spondylolisthesis (severe at L4/L5 and now slipping at L5/1 Doctor said at grade 2.
I will get an MRI and see a neurosurgeon next month. Last test was December of last year.
Also getting a DEXA scan as I have some osteoporosis and osteopenia; need to see what that shows.
Adding: I have painful hips; gluteal tendinopathy, both sides. Spurs in S/I joints and hips.
Also, peripheral neuropathy in both lower limbs and feet and just plain nasty feet with surgically inducted arthritis in toes.
Every facet in my spine is arthritic. I have cervical stenosis, healed compression fractures at T5 and 12.
I see recommendations from $700 to >$2000. My budget is closer to $1500.
I am temporarily sleeping on what my daughter had in her guest bedroom.
It is a Sealy Deveraux Plush Pillowtop.
It's not as bad as my old Beautyrest, but I still get up a couple of times due to pain.
I thought that would happen with all mattresses, but while in Ireland in May, I sleep all night a couple of times and one morning realized my hips weren't hurting. Their mattresses were all made in England.
Thank you, Maureen
Nothing Simmons, Sealy, or any of the name brands makes today, in the US, is made without memory foam.
What makes a Beautyrest so comfortable is the individually pocketed coils, which contour to the shape of the body and maintain the natural alignment of the spine.
Pillowtop mattress are not good because of how quickly they wear.
A mattress with good, firm support and a comfortable sleeping surface is the way to go.
There’s nothing wrong with a plush mattress, if it’s not too soft.
The mattress I’d recommend for you is:
The Wolf Brolynn Old Fashioned Two Sided Mattress in Plush.
This mattress has an individually pocketed coil unit and is upholstered with natural, plant based poly foam.
There is NO Memory Foam in this mattress.
Click on this link to view specifications and prices.
I have read a lot about choosing mattress type and firmness based on a person's weight and sleep position.
The information is all based on individual sleepers and never addresses any special considerations for couples.
My wife and I are both 63 years old, physically fit and active.
We are currently sleeping on a 12 year old Westin Heavenly Bed Mattress.
I am 5'11", 162lbs and a side and back sleeper who has begun suffering pressure point problems in both shoulders. My wife is 5'9", 107lb and a strict side sleeper with no current pressure point problems.
We sleep on a queen bed and spend a lot of time spooned tightly together front to back.
But we also spend time apart particularly when shoulder pain drives me onto my back or it is too warm to be cuddled together.
So, while my wife is in the <130lbs petite category and I am in the 130lb - 230lb average category, when we are spooned together, we fall in the >230lb large category.
What does this mean for choosing a firmness and support level?
Everything I read would suggest a soft (4 - 5) firmness for my wife, a medium (5 - 6) for me and more like a medium firm/firm (6.5 - 7.5) to gain the support required for our combined weight to maintain spinal alignment when spooned together.
Any insight you can provide on how to think this through and select the best firmness level would be appreciated.
I would also be interested in any specific bed recommendations you might put forward.
Thank you in advance, Geoff
Frankly, you’re over thinking this.
A good strong individually pocketed coil unit will provide the contouring support any body needs for proper spinal alignment.
A soft latex mattress topper will provide the surface comfort you need to sleep deeply.
Rotating your new mattress on a regular basis will cause the mattress to wear evenly, providing long lasting support and comfort for both of you.
The mattress I’m recommending is the Wolf Jessica.
Click on this link to view specifications and prices.
Many years ago, I bought a Sealy SpringFree Beachside Latex Mattress from you that we have loved.
It’s lived quite a life span but needs to be replaced now. Can you recommend one just like it?
Just a bit about me. I’m 73 now, so pressure points need to be comfortable.
I’m 5’6”, have a bad back that’s killing me lately, weigh 180, most of which are in my stomach, hips and butt. Side sleeper 90%/back sleeper/10%.
I need a full-size mattress (sleep with 3 furbabies) with good edge support.
I sleep only on one side of it, and spend 4 or more hours with my elbow digging into the bed while on my side watching tv. Like the Sealy was, I need a bed that’s easy to turn or move around on – NO sinking or sagging.
I’m like the old Princess who could feel a pea if it were under her mattress.
This is my last hurrah for buying a mattress. For health and financial reasons, I can’t ‘afford’ to make a mistake (not that anyone can, I know..) So, I’m turning to you… What do you think I should do?
Any advice would be sooo appreciated.
You may or may not need a new mattress.
It’s the soft poly foam on top of that Beachside which has worn.
I recommend getting someone to flip the mattress over for you.
The flip side exposes the firm latex core.
Add to that, a Suite Sleep 3” Soft Vita Talalay Latex Topper for the surface comfort you want….shown here:
100% All-Natural Vytex Dunlop Latex Mattress Toppers. Ever-Eden’s Vytex Dunlop is, virtually, Allergen Free. And while the Vytex Dunlop comes in the same 2 choices of comfort levels, Dunlop is a more dense material and does not have as supple a feel as the Talalay Latex Toppers.
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There’s no point in discussing a mattress at this time.
Things change regularly in this industry.
The topper should be all you need for, maybe, years.
You might try the topper on both sides of your mattress and use it on whichever side produces the better result.
You’ll, likely, to be able to use that same topper on whatever mattress comes next.
We recommend using a waterproof mattress protector with every mattress.
Keeping the upholstery materials clean and dry will extend the life of the mattress.
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