I bought a simmons comforpedic advanced seabrooke. I hate it..it is
too soft for me and I feel no support in my lower back and hips. My
husband loves it because of the relief in his pressure points. I can
only exchange the mattress...husband will not go back to a coil
mattress..I feel that I need the support. He wants to look at
Tempurpedic, either the Rhapsody or contour select. I like the simmons
renewed energy, but Honestly I fear that I will not get the support in
my lower back and hips that I desire from a foam mattress.
Between the two, the Simmons Comforpedic is superior. The memory foam is less
temperature sensitive and more resilient. And, the Tempurpedic off gasses some
very toxic chemicals.
There are firmer Comforpedics that you can opt for.
Another option is an innerspring with a latex topper to relieve the pressure points.
Latex is, by far, superior to any memory foam in performance, comfort and
durability. Starting with a Simmons Beautyrest mattress in luxury firm will also help
to relieve pressure points.
It sounds like your biggest obstacle is your husband.
Men and women are built differently, shaped differently. And, quite often, disagree
as to what is comfortable. Sometimes the difference is so great, that the only solution
is separate mattresses.