Karen of Perry, GA, writes:
Thank you so much for this blog. I really need help on a mattress problem, and have no where else to turn. What a service you provide! I am 5'9" and 135 lbs, fairly slim. My husband is 5'9" and 240 lbs. He has very broad shoulders and wears a 52" jacket, but is narrow in the waist. I need lumbar support, and have always preferred a firm mattress with coil springs. I always figured that if I wanted a bit more padding I can add my own foam topper. He wants a softer feel so his shoulders don't ache when he sleeps on his side. (He snores on his back.) He has crushed the springs in every mattress we have ever bought. Even the box springs sag under the heavy weight of his shoulders. With our current mattress (a beautyrest), I got wise and we flip it top to bottom only. That way my side at least was not so quick to sag. However this mattress is worn out now, my back hurts and I have no idea what to do. About 7 years ago we tried a latex mattress. With this mattress you could swap out the cores to get the firmness you prefer. My lumbar was never happy with the latex, no matter how firm or soft, so we returned it. We have tried memory foam, but can't tolerate the heat and the sinking in feeling. We are considering an adjustable air bed. My concern wth the air bed is the equal pressure everywhere doesn't seem like it will provide lumbar support. We are also considering a Spring Free mattress - does the latex really give good lumbar support? Have you had other customers with this situation? Please tell me what worked for them, as I am not sure how to get a good night sleep. Thank you again so much.
Hi Karen. A pair of problem children, I see. It's tough enough, trying to fit someone who's disproprtionate in shape, but then to add the a second person with opposing needs...well, it just makes it difficult.
The best way around all these problems is to get him off his side and onto his back. There isn't a mattress made that will be soft enough for his shoulders and be firm enough for you. As a back sleeper, he wouldn't need as soft a mattress. The problem is the snoring. If the head of the bed is angled a little, he'll breathe easier. You can either raise the head section by blocking it up, or get an adjustable bed. Also, and I can tell you from personal experience, that those opaque ear plugs they sell at CVS work really well.
Your experience with latex tells me that you'd be better off with an interlocked innerspring. (This is for you, with him on his back). The Stearns & Foster Caravelle, with a 2" latex topper will do three things....accomodate your need for support, add enough comfort for you to sleep deeply and hold up well under his weight.
Raising the head of the bed a little will cut down on his snoring. The ear plugs will block out the rest of it.
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