I am a petite woman 5'2", 110 lbs. and my husband is a large man, not fat, 5'10", 210 lbs. We are young, early 30s. He is in perfect health, but I suffer from sciatica.
The pain travels around my hip and down my leg. No matter what mattress we try, the pain won't go away.
The Tempurpedic went back after making the pain worse, as did the Select Comfort bed and the Serta iSeries pillowtop mattress.
They all felt great, at first, but quickly started to became painful.
My old mattress was too firm, but I wish I had it back. After spending hours, last night, reading your incredibly helpful blog posts, I've decided to defer to you.
Your depth of knowledge and expertise is very impressive. I'm going to trust that what you recommend for me will be what I need.
To be honest, I have come to the realization that I just don't know what I'm doing, when it comes to this.
And after being so badly mislead by the salespeople at the stores, I don't trust that they know what they're doing, either.
Thanks in advance, Paulette
Hi Paulette...and thank you. We will get you and your husband all fixed up.
Near the base of your spine is the nerve center for the lower half of your body. To have sciatica, you must also have discs in that area that have worn.
The vertebrae are now pinching a nerve, which creates sciatica and the pain you described.
The best you can do to relieve the nerve from being pinched, is to maintain your spine's natural alignment.
A hard mattress, like the one you had, holds you up too high and doesn't give enough at the hip.
All foam and air mattresses, like the ones you bought, allow your hip to sink too far.
Either way, your body's natural alignment was thrown off...which then pinches the nerve that causes the sciatic pain you're feeling. An innerspring mattress is a must form you.
Of all the innerspring mattresses available, the Simmons Beautyrest, with individually pocketed coils that move independently from one another, does the best job of maintaining your spine's natural alignment. At your size, almost any Beautyrest will do. But, your mattress also has to support a large man.
Your best option is the Simmons Beautyrest Blach Desiree in luxury firm. This will provide contouring support you need, and be strong enough to hold a man the size of your husband.
At your size, the mattress itself will be a little too firm for comfort. Add to that mattress, a 2" soft Talalay latex mattress topper. Latex is the highest quality upholstery material available.
It will do more than just soften the surface of the mattress. It will hold you up and not allow you to sink...giving just enough with your hip and otherwise, provide a zero gravity feel.
Latex lasts for many years and is all natural. Because it is so resilient, it will absorb your husband's body weight, which will add years of life to the mattress.
Your husband will also enjoy the comfort it provides.
What's more, your sciatica pain will be relieved and you'll sleep deeply.
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