I am in dire need of your help… I feel like Goldilocks that is nowhere close to finding her “just right!” I am on mattress #4 in 7 months and about to go insane! In 2014, we replaced our worn out king mattress (that we liked) with the firm Candace Simmons. My husband wanted to try firmer and I couldn’t tell a big difference in the store so I went along. We weren’t sure what we previously had, but I think it was a plush. My husband now thinks it may have been a pillowtop that could be flipped. Oh, how I wish I knew!
I am a side and occasional back sleeper that is 50 pounds overweight. Not long after the first purchase, my hips began to hurt severely; I had trouble walking and at a much later date was diagnosed with bursitis as well as having some shoulder pain from being a side sleeper. After a battery of tests, doctors attributed it to the firmness of the mattress. We traded the Simmons in for the Serta iComfort Prodigy, a memory foam bed. It didn’t seem to be dense and supportive enough and so I woke with terrible back pain and stiffness. Another issue with the mattress was that my husband and I are extremely hot sleepers in general and we burned up on this bed. This gel foam “technology” wasn’t for us and really never want to go back to anything that has a remote chance of holding heat. That rules out a lot of options….
So, last summer I was left with hips that had not healed before buying the second mattress and now an aching back. Two months after buying the Icomfort, we bought and then later returned the Sealy Willow plush mattress and have now borrowed my mother’s guest room mattress, the Sealy Hearth plush just to give my body time to heal before making any more COSTLY mistakes!
I am at a total loss because even the last two plush beds felt like the sidewalk. We have a 2 inch topper to make it bearable but I still wake up stiff all over. It’s not miserable like the first 3 but far from being comfortable. My husband who can sleep on anything even agrees that these feel extremely firm. As a side note, I have found that a little incline helps some nights. After steroid shots in October 2014 and physical therapy, my hips have now predominantly recovered and dreadfully, it is time to mattress shop again. I know that firm is not an option with my history. I even question the plush. Are there varying degrees of plushness among the brands that I could look for that are softer than others? I really have considered the pillowtops because I like the layer of softness but I know they have their own issues and don’t want to compromise back support. Would I be better off with the traditional spring or hybrid mattress or what? Would I do best spending the large part of my money on an adjustable frame? I am so terrified of making another mistake (don’t forget about the heat issues). Right now we are $3,000 in the hole and no direction to go. I admire your knowledge and advice that you have given others. I welcome any suggestions as well as types stay away from as well! Many thanks! Vicki
You're more like Alice in Wonderland than Goldilocks. In Goldilocks day, (Back when you bought that two sided mattress), it was purely a question of feel.
Your problem today, isn't feel. It's quality. At the time you bought your two-sided mattress, quality wasn't an issue. It was extremely difficult to buy a bad bed.
Today, it's equally as difficult to buy a good one. It's almost like stepping into Wonderland, only to find that you're really in The Twilight Zone...a nightmarish experience when you were expecting to find your dream mattress.
The first thing you need to do, is to forget what you think you've learned. Most of what you've been told is an out-right lie....kind of like a politician's version of truth.
The mattress industry is no longer concerned with quality. They are solely concerned with profits. Thee one, most singular item that does the most to maximize profits, is memory foam.
Memory foam is why you sleep hot and why a new mattress loses comfort so quickly. What memory foam does, is to create a comfortable sleeping surface that lasts long enough to make the sale and get them past their trial period. After that, it begins to show it's true colors.
The "Gel" that is supposed to mitigate sleeping hot works...for a few hours and then quits.
If you sleep longer than only a few hours, you are back in the slow cooker well before it's time to get up.
Memory foam loses comfort and support within months to a year or two...depending on your weight.
Now here comes the diabolical part. When you get off the mattress, the memory foam will return enough that to prevail in a warranty claim is almost impossible.
Since the manufacturers don't have to exchange the garbage they are producing, they've extended the warranties, which creates the illusion of quality in the minds of the consumers.
To add injury to this insult, memory foam is a chemical soup and it off-gasses the toxic chemicals from which it is made. Sinus headache is the most common side effect, but there have been reports of much worse. The fumes seem to attack your respiratory system.
Memory foam is, without question, thee worst material ever invented for use in or as a mattress...and it's almost all you can buy in most stores.
There are approx. 12,000 different mattresses on the market. Why? Because everyone is different. But, are we all that much different?
The human body consists of a skeletal system, a muscular system and a vascular system....among other things.
That skeletal system is the first part that need to be addressed when buying a mattress. IT, requires some degree of firm support to keep it aligned.
The padding on top of the mattress is what you turn to to relax your muscles and to alleviate blood flow.
In this, we are, pretty much, all the same. Body weight and shape, spinal conditions, sleeping position, ailments like fibromyalgia and arthritis, pressure point problems at the hip and shoulder...are all factors to consider when recommending one mattress over another. But, you have to understand this stuff before you can do that.
Today's sales people do not have the training, nor do they have the right quality materials to choose from, to fit you to a mattress that's right for you.
The bulk of their training is in "How To Make The Sale". Separating you from your money is what they are trained to do....period.
And, as you've seen from personal experience, they do a fine job of it.
While it might be painful to hear, you were on the right track with your first choice...The Simmons Beautyrest. Simmons makes a wide variety of models with an even wider choice of comfort at each level. If you look at the Beautyrests on our website, you'll notice that there are no "plush" models shown. They make them and I can get them, but will not fill an order for any of their plush models. If you search the internet for reviews on Simmons, it appears that a Beautyrest is the worst mattress made. The reason is that plush models are easy to sell...and making the sale is all that anyone cares about. The gauge of wire for the coils in the plush models is thinner than the firm models. These weaker coils loses their shape very quickly and almost always wind up as a warranty claim...to which you are not likely to prevail. But hey, they sell and sell well. A mattress is a pressure sensitive item and how it wears is in direct relation to the pressure applied to it. If you are the weight of a child, none of this much matters. However, I can assure you that you are nowhere to being alone in carrying an extra 50 pounds. As such, the mattress needs to be stronger. It's a matter of simple physics.
Firm Beautyrests come in a variety...extra firm, firm, luxury firm...all using the heavier gauge wire.
The Simmons Beautyrest uses an individually pocketed coil system, where the coils move independently from on another. This coil unit was introduced in the 1920s.
Today, there are many brands with a pocketed coil unit...and not, at all, the same.
Only the Simmons uses a pre-compressed "barrel" shaped coil that starts out 9" tall and then compressed into a 7" pocket. The pockets are heat sealed at their center, which allows the coils to move separately. This provides 1) the greatest degree of contouring support and 2) the greatest degree of motion separation....so that you don't feel each other move in the bed.
Other brands use and hour-glass shaped coil that is as tall as the pocket. The pockets are heat sealed at the surface....again, not the same.
The individual movement of the coils will provide contouring support that won't fight your pressure points at the hip and shoulder.
It would be a Luxury Firm World Class Annapolis Place Beautyrest that I would recommend for you...like the one shown in this link.
But, that's not all. We still have to cushion the surface to relieve your pressure point pain, relax your muscles and allow your blood to flow freely.
All this adds up to less tossing and turning. The less you are forced to move around, the deeper the night's sleep you'll get....waking rested and with little to no pain.
This is achieved with latex foam...the original foam rubber that is all natural and chemical free. It, too, was introduced to the mattress industry in the 1920s.
Since then, it has never lost it's top spot as "The Best You Can Buy"....and, it sleeps cool....all by itself, without any gel and with no excuses.
For those with average body weight to large people who are a bit overweight, the model that works best is the 2" Soft Talalay Latex.
Together, they are the bed you're looking for.
Factory Direct to You....All Items Made Factory Fresh to Fill Your Order
Free Delivery Nationwide....US & Canada...NO SALES TAX.