I am a side sleeper and have fibromyalgia. I am 5’5” and weigh 250 lbs.
What mattresses do you recommend and what’s the price of your Bliss latex-down pillow?
Why does this pillow help?
The pillow is made of finely chopped latex. As such, it can be manipulated to mold around your head and neck like a down pillow.
Unlike a down pillow that flattens out quickly, the latex lasts for years.
This pillow is particularly helpful in relieving chronic neck pain.
For the sake of durability under your weight and to provide a soft, pressure relieving surface, an all latex mattress would be your best choice for mattress.
For white glove delivery, you can choose from the pure LatexBLISS models. The Beautiful model is the most luxurious without being too soft. However, I would suggest the Nutrition model for your size. Shown here:
My wife has a bulging disc and also suffers from Fibromyalgia. I've been reading your blog and am torn between getting one of your latex toppers for the pillowtop mattress we have, which has not held up well, or getting a new mattress with a latex topper. We are average size people in our 40s. Any help would be appreciated. Mike.
Hi Mike Your wife's problem has a duality to it...an interior spinal problem that requires better support and the exterior problem of fibromyalgia, which requires surface softness. The mattress you have, being a pillowtop model, is lacking in both areas. Frankly, you'd do better by starting with a new mattress...one that provides firmer support and a soft surface, using materials that hold up better over time than what you have. Such a mattress does not have to cost a lot. I would suggest the Villani model from Wolf...shown here:
Going the "topper" route, is more of a band aid solution. And, you need 2 toppers...one for support and one for comfort. If going this direction, I suggest a 1.5" Dunlop used under a 1.5" soft Talalay. Shown here:
We also carry a pillow that works extraordinarily well on severe neck problems. It's made of finely chopped latex, which can be easily molded around your head and neck, much the way a down pillow does. But latex lasts for years, unlike a down pillow, which flattens out quickly. The pillow is called Latex/Down and made by pure Bliss...shown here:
I just came across your website and hope you can help me. I'm 35, considerably overweight (hopefully not for long!), and I have RA and fibromyalgia. I also recently had a hysterectomy due to uterine cancer. I say all that so you get an idea of what kind of pain I'm dealing with. We currently have a pillowtop mattress that was given to us about 8 years ago, used, by a family member. It's not nearly supportive enough. Can you recommend something that will give me a decent night's rest and last!?
Thank you! Vanessa
Mattresses are pressure sensitive items. Knowing your approximate height and weight will help me to recommend a sleep system that is best suited to your size and specific needs.
Also, it's helpful to know if you have any physical ailments that need to be addressed.
Oh wonderful lol. Just what every woman wants to do. I'm about 5'5 and 270 lbs. I've gained quite a bit of weight being on steroids. My husband is 6'2 and about 280 , if that matters.
Jon has some lower back issues and my RA.
A mattress that is strong enough to hold the two of you and last for many years, is our Therapedic Medi-Coil Permatuft in Plush.
This mattress was specifically designed to support that amount of weight long term.
My wife is 65, 2 hip replacements, fibromyalgia and all the pain that goes with it. What is the absolute best mattress in the world for us?
Ours is a story you've heard many times so I'll make it brief. We have tried everything, including tempurpedic, and nothing works. We just got rid of another nightmare memory foam topper. I am 70, in reasonably good shape, 6'2" and 210 pounds. I'm fed up with too firm or too soft mattresses and combinations that are causing pain and sleep loss.
Ya know, Dave. In many ways, a mattress is only a mattress...an upholstered product you lie down on to go to sleep. It isn't the be all to end all. It isn't a lifetime purchase. It won't fix any of your problems. It's just a place to rest. You haven't tried everything. You've tried everything that someone tried to sell you...promising you the moon in the process. One of the major problems in this industry is in the over-selling of continually worsening quality. When you no longer have anything decent to offer, you have to make what you do have sound better than it is. It's totally gotten out of hand...and the buying public are making things worse by trying to buy "the best mattress in the world", or "the mattress of my dreams", or "wanting to sleep on a cloud", or, generally, just thinking of a mattress as if it were meant to be a luxury item. What you need isn't anything different than the next guy...firm support with a surface that is comfortable enough to allow you to sleep deeply...a restful, recuperative night's sleep. The major problem today is, that finding a mattress like that is easy....while finding one that will do that for more than a year or two, (and in many cases, only a few months), is nearly impossible. Latex is playing an ever increasingly important role in getting around the "disposable mattress" syndrome of today's mattress market. Latex has been the best material available since the 1920s. Latex is extremely high quality and it's expensive to make. It isn't so widely used because it is expensive. You may wonder about that, considering how expensive mattresses are these days. The prices you're being charged are not because the mattresses are expensively made. They cost what they do because everybody is making a killing. Did you happen to notice how many mattress stores there are. And, no matter where you live, you're being bombarded by mass media mattress marketing...TV, Radio, Newspaper...all very expensive. I'll give you just one guess as to who ultimately pays for them.
Ok, enough of this tirade. But, a lot of people will read this...many making the same mistakes you've made...making them over and over again...when all it takes to avoid getting snookered is a common sense perspective. Anyway, all you need is a decent quality, basic mattress of reasonable firmness and a soft latex topper to go with it. The latex topper will absorb much of your body weight, enhancing the longevity of the mattress, as well as providing long lasting comfort. You might consider that which my wife and I sleep on....and let me tell you, it's very nice...nicer than anything I've found at any hotel. And, it does a great job of comforting my wife's hip pain.
The mattress is the Simmons Beautyrest Black Ava in luxury firm...and a 2" soft Talalay Latex topper. Here are the links...mattress and latex topper.
I'm looking for a two-sided, flippable mattress that will last me at least 10 years....one that has a good guarantee...unlike the Simmons Beautyrest that wants to measure a indentation with a broom stick and a tape measure without adding any weight to the mattress at all. I would like a free in home trial over 30 days. No memory foam that sucks you in like quick sand and your unable to move. I need a mattress that will go onto a adjustable bed. I need inner coils that can hold up a overweight person. I need a pillow top that is extra Cushioning that will help with fibromyalgia and arthritis. I need a money back guarantee if I'm not satisfied. I also want a bed that you can't feel motion of the other person. Flip able would be wonderful. I like a thick mattress over 12 inches. Can you help pick the right mattress ? PS. Reasonably priced! Thank you, Mary.
Hi Mary, First, let me say that I couldn't help but be amused. In thinking about where one might go to make such a purchase, I envision that place to be somewhere over the rainbow. However, even there, the wait time must pretty long to have a mattress like that made...considering that all the employees arrive to work at 1, take an hour for lunch, and then at 2 they're done.
So, let's take that balloon ride back to Kansas...back to the real world, where you can't always get what you want...but where you can get what you need. 1) Every mattress manufacturer's warranty calls for measuring indentations the same way Simmons does. It's the industry standard. 2) All pillowtop mattresses lose their shape easily under average weight, let alone under someone who is over weight. 3) Comfort exchanges are the crutch that allows for salespeople not having to know their product very well, or knowing which mattress to suggest for your needs. After all, you can always exchange it. Most stores allow for only one exchange, where you are faced with neither you nor the salesperson knowing what to do next...panic time. When buying from a store that offers a comfort exchange, you are faced with the distinct possibility of receiving a mattress that someone else has returned...another sharp edge to that sword. I find that it is far better to know what you're doing before you do it, eliminating the need for an exchange and eliminating all the guesswork. 4) There are very few mattresses that can be returned for a refund. For those where you can, the prices are exorbitant....and, they are usually made of memory foam. 5) I don't know what you consider to be reasonably priced, but you will require something that will hold an overweight person and provide comfort that lasts. That kind of quality doesn't come cheap.
All that said, I do have a recommendation for you that has worked like a charm over the past several years, under these very same conditions...and provide everything you need to sleep well....with no memory foam. The Therapedic two-sided Keepsake Cameo in plush topped with a 2" soft latex removable pillow topper. Delivery is free and there's no sales tax. Here are the links to those items.
I am in dire need of your help… I feel like Goldilocks that is nowhere close to finding her “just right!” I am on mattress #4 in 7 months and about to go insane! In 2014, we replaced our worn out king mattress (that we liked) with the firm Candace Simmons. My husband wanted to try firmer and I couldn’t tell a big difference in the store so I went along. We weren’t sure what we previously had, but I think it was a plush. My husband now thinks it may have been a pillowtop that could be flipped. Oh, how I wish I knew!
I am a side and occasional back sleeper that is 50 pounds overweight.Not long after the first purchase, my hips began to hurt severely; I had trouble walking and at a much later date was diagnosed with bursitis as well as having some shoulder pain from being a side sleeper.After a battery of tests, doctors attributed it to the firmness of the mattress.We traded the Simmons in for the Serta iComfort Prodigy, a memory foam bed. It didn’t seem to be dense and supportive enough and so I woke with terrible back pain and stiffness. Another issue with the mattress was that my husband and I are extremely hot sleepers in general and we burned up on this bed.This gel foam “technology” wasn’t for us and really never want to go back to anything that has a remote chance of holding heat.That rules out a lot of options….
So, last summer I was left with hips that had not healed before buying the second mattress and now an aching back. Two months after buying the Icomfort, we bought and then later returned the Sealy Willow plush mattress and have now borrowed my mother’s guest room mattress, the Sealy Hearth plush just to give my body time to heal before making any more COSTLY mistakes!
I am at a total loss because even the last two plush beds felt like the sidewalk.We have a 2 inch topper to make it bearable but I still wake up stiff all over.It’s not miserable like the first 3 but far from being comfortable. My husband who can sleep on anything even agrees that these feel extremely firm.As a side note, I have found that a little incline helps some nights.After steroid shots in October 2014 and physical therapy, my hips have now predominantly recovered and dreadfully, it is time to mattress shop again.I know that firm is not an option with my history.I even question the plush.Are there varying degrees of plushness among the brands that I could look for that are softer than others?I really have considered the pillowtops because I like the layer of softness but I know they have their own issues and don’t want to compromise back support.Would I be better off with the traditional spring or hybrid mattress or what? Would I do best spending the large part of my money on an adjustable frame?I am so terrified of making another mistake (don’t forget about the heat issues).Right now we are $3,000 in the hole and no direction to go.I admire your knowledge and advice that you have given others.I welcome any suggestions as well as types stay away from as well! Many thanks! Vicki
You're more like Alice in Wonderland than Goldilocks. In Goldilocks day, (Back when you bought that two sided mattress), it was purely a question of feel.
Your problem today, isn't feel. It's quality. At the time you bought your two-sided mattress, quality wasn't an issue. It was extremely difficult to buy a bad bed.
Today, it's equally as difficult to buy a good one. It's almost like stepping into Wonderland, only to find that you're really in The Twilight Zone...a nightmarish experience when you were expecting to find your dream mattress.
The first thing you need to do, is to forget what you think you've learned. Most of what you've been told is an out-right lie....kind of like a politician's version of truth.
The mattress industry is no longer concerned with quality. They are solely concerned with profits. Thee one, most singular item that does the most to maximize profits, is memory foam.
Memory foam is why you sleep hot and why a new mattress loses comfort so quickly. What memory foam does, is to create a comfortable sleeping surface that lasts long enough to make the sale and get them past their trial period. After that, it begins to show it's true colors.
The "Gel" that is supposed to mitigate sleeping hot works...for a few hours and then quits.
If you sleep longer than only a few hours, you are back in the slow cooker well before it's time to get up.
Memory foam loses comfort and support within months to a year or two...depending on your weight.
Now here comes the diabolical part. When you get off the mattress, the memory foam will return enough that to prevail in a warranty claim is almost impossible.
Since the manufacturers don't have to exchange the garbage they are producing, they've extended the warranties, which creates the illusion of quality in the minds of the consumers.
To add injury to this insult, memory foam is a chemical soup and it off-gasses the toxic chemicals from which it is made. Sinus headache is the most common side effect, but there have been reports of much worse. The fumes seem to attack your respiratory system.
Memory foam is, without question, thee worst material ever invented for use in or as a mattress...and it's almost all you can buy in most stores.
There are approx. 12,000 different mattresses on the market. Why? Because everyone is different. But, are we all that much different?
The human body consists of a skeletal system, a muscular system and a vascular system....among other things.
That skeletal system is the first part that need to be addressed when buying a mattress. IT, requires some degree of firm support to keep it aligned.
The padding on top of the mattress is what you turn to to relax your muscles and to alleviate blood flow.
In this, we are, pretty much, all the same. Body weight and shape, spinal conditions, sleeping position, ailments like fibromyalgia and arthritis, pressure point problems at the hip and shoulder...are all factors to consider when recommending one mattress over another. But, you have to understand this stuff before you can do that.
Today's sales people do not have the training, nor do they have the right quality materials to choose from, to fit you to a mattress that's right for you.
The bulk of their training is in "How To Make The Sale". Separating you from your money is what they are trained to do....period.
And, as you've seen from personal experience, they do a fine job of it.
While it might be painful to hear, you were on the right track with your first choice...The Simmons Beautyrest. Simmons makes a wide variety of models with an even wider choice of comfort at each level. If you look at the Beautyrests on our website, you'll notice that there are no "plush" models shown. They make them and I can get them, but will not fill an order for any of their plush models. If you search the internet for reviews on Simmons, it appears that a Beautyrest is the worst mattress made. The reason is that plush models are easy to sell...and making the sale is all that anyone cares about. The gauge of wire for the coils in the plush models is thinner than the firm models. These weaker coils loses their shape very quickly and almost always wind up as a warranty claim...to which you are not likely to prevail. But hey, they sell and sell well. A mattress is a pressure sensitive item and how it wears is in direct relation to the pressure applied to it. If you are the weight of a child, none of this much matters. However, I can assure you that you are nowhere to being alone in carrying an extra 50 pounds. As such, the mattress needs to be stronger. It's a matter of simple physics.
Firm Beautyrests come in a variety...extra firm, firm, luxury firm...all using the heavier gauge wire.
The Simmons Beautyrest uses an individually pocketed coil system, where the coils move independently from on another. This coil unit was introduced in the 1920s.
Today, there are many brands with a pocketed coil unit...and not, at all, the same.
Only the Simmons uses a pre-compressed "barrel" shaped coil that starts out 9" tall and then compressed into a 7" pocket. The pockets are heat sealed at their center, which allows the coils to move separately. This provides 1) the greatest degree of contouring support and 2) the greatest degree of motion separation....so that you don't feel each other move in the bed.
Other brands use and hour-glass shaped coil that is as tall as the pocket. The pockets are heat sealed at the surface....again, not the same.
The individual movement of the coils will provide contouring support that won't fight your pressure points at the hip and shoulder.
It would be a Luxury Firm World Class Annapolis Place Beautyrest that I would recommend for you...like the one shown in this link.
My wife has emailed you on several occasions about finding a mattress suitable for her back pain and fibromyalgia. You suggested a Therapedic Medi-Coil plush. While I like the idea of a double sided mattress with a heavy duty coil system, I am concerned about buying a mattress and two toppers that may or may not be necessary without the option of returning anything. I agree with your philosophy on sleep systems, but my wife has found many a mattress to be unsatisfactory. What recourse do I have if we end up with another mattress and/or topper we cannot use? Can you give me any specifics on the construction of this mattress? (Coil count and gauge, structure of layers, etc).
Sorry to wear you out, but I cannot afford another mattress that will not work.
It sounds as though your faith has been misplaced thus far.
The mattress industry, as a whole, is in the business of deceptive practices.
They have been in steady decline in quality over the past 10/11 years, while promoting their products as good and long lasting.
Fact is, very few commercially made mattresses will hold up for more than a few years under average body weight.
You may have been swayed by the guarantees. It's these guarantees that keep everyone in business, despite the poor quality.
In fact, you need to sell the guarantees in order to sell poor quality goods.
The Medi-Coil comes with a 15 year manufacturers warranty. However, we do not offer any sort of guarantees beyond that. Then again, we aren't selling standard, poor quality mattresses.
The Medi-Coil, especially, is thee strongest mattress on the market. It exists only because I had it made in order to offer a quality alternative to what the mattress industry is pushing.
We've had these available for the past 5 years, with some of my customers exceeding 500 pounds. These mattresses enjoy a 100% satisfaction rate, so far.
Now is the time to dig a little deeper and come up with the faith you'll need to buy one.
In fact, it's the only mattress available anywhere, that will do the job.
Latex is and has been thee most comfortable and most resilient upholstery material on the planet for the last 100 years. You won't find it used in most mattresses because it works too well.
The industry is geared to making disposable products.
Peter - I spoke with you several years ago and ordered your queen Sealy River Crest latex mattress for my Fibromyalgia based on your recommendations, which I might add has been wonderful! Thank you!!!! I now need to purchase a king and would like something comparable. I have considered a firm set with the 3" latex topper since I can't get the River Crest anymore. Recommendations? Thank you!!!!
Hi Kelly, A good quality innerspring with a latex foam topper can be just as comfortable as an all latex mattress with a few hundred dollars savings to be had in the bargain. Start of with a "luxury firm" mattress, which doesn't have quite as stiff a surface feel as a "firm" model. Here are links to that, and to our most popular innerspring/topper combination sleep system.
Simmons Beautyrest World Class Annapolis Place in luxury firm
My husband and I need to purchase a Queen mattress and we don't have a lot of money, we are both disabled and on Social Security so we really need to keep the cost under a $1000.00 or as close to that as possible. Sadly, Our weight has hit the 200 lb range. He has spinal stenosis, COPD and sleep apnea I have fibromyalgia, Rheumatoid arthritis and asthma. We want to have something that is firm and supports well. The mattress must stay cool and not hold heat this is a huge issue for me as I am always hot and get very warm when I sleep. Research I have done suggests to me that this is a problem with mattresses nowadays. Our current mattress is 15 plus years old, I got a cuddle down memory foam topper about 8 years ago, and these seemed to work well but in the last year both have broken down pretty badly. Any suggestions on what to buy. Thank You, Linda
Hi Linda, Since you can't afford the best mattress, you also want to avoid wasting your money on a mediocre mattress. You're going to need firm support and a comfortable sleeping surface and what you buy has to do that job without leaving you back at square one a year from now. Since your current mattress is 15 years old, you might be under the impression that today's mattresses last that long. They don't. The recommendation is for a good firm strong basic mattress and add a layer of soft latex to it for long lasting comfort. The latex foam mattress topper is the key to comforting your fibro and arthritis, as well as extending the life of the mattress. The mattress needs to firm and strong to support your weights. This sleep system combination will provide everything your body needs and protect your investment at the same time. The mattress is made by Therapedic. It's their "Prism Elite" model at $649.00, with the 2" all-natural Talalay latex foam topper on sale for $315.00. Together, you are just under your $1000 cap...and you'll have excellent quality products to show for it.
I read Pete's recommendation for a Simmons Beautyrest World Class Annapolis Place Luxury Firm Tight top mattress with a 2" latex foam topper.
Would you please quote me a price for the topper? And can I have it delivered at the same time as the mattress, assuming it's the one I decide on?
I bought a Tempurpedic several years ago and have disliked it. My body seems to have made a trench. When I turn over to the other side of my queen size bed, it's like climbing a small hill! They did replace it, but I still don't like it. Also, I like to sleep cool, not warm.
I'm 68, 5'5" tall, average weight. I have arthritis and fibromyalgia, but am doing quite well. I sleep pretty well, despite the fact I don't like my mattress.
I really love my sister and BIL's sleep number bed. However, it seemed a waste since I do sleep alone. I could get a single control, but it's still quite pricey.
Any other answers I could provide for you to tell me what topper I need?
Thanks, Sue Ellen
Hi Sue Ellen,
The Annapolis Place in Luxury firm with a 2" soft Talalay latex foam topper has been one of our most popular combination.
The topper arrives UPS ahead of the mattress, so it's ready to go when the mattress gets there.
The topper runs $314.99 in queen and $404.99 in king....on sale until the end of July.
Pete, Does Pure LatexBLISS use all botanical latex or is the latex the 70% pure and 30% synthetic blend? Thank you. Kay Hi Kay, Both are available. When you look at the pureBliss page, you'll see two sections to their...
Flo writes: Hi Pete, I currently have a Sealy Posturpedic Prestige extra firm mattress set. I am 70 yr old female, about 180 pounds, with hip and knee pain(sciatic). I also tend to sleep hot. Many nights I am unable...